My dear Radiant One,
I challenge myself all the time to get more vulnerable, more real in my life because I have seen how it not only heals me – but gives those around me permission to open up to me and others in their lives. This in turn brings more healing for our world.
Today, I am doing it again.
If we wish as women to end abuse and bullying in our lives (my ultimate purpose personally), if we wish to find men that are truly worthy of being with us (and in us!), if we wish to raise children who respect and love themselves so they can love others ~ I am finding that it starts with getting real about those parts of ourselves that we have cut off, shamed, repressed, labeled as bad, etc.
In my opinion, there is no bigger area in our lives as women than the area of our sexuality.
I KNOW as women in the Western culture we have often been presented with two ways of being woman with a sexuality in the world: Madonna or the Whore.
(Goodness how boring and old school is that!)
While the women’s lib movement did open up a little bit of a twist on these two ~ it really just opened the door for women to become more like men, not women. It pushed us to ignore our deep mysterious ways, our cycles and pushing through our “irrational” and “annoying” emotions that come their way – or medicating them beyond belief.
And while it did give us a bit more freedom in our sexuality – again it came at it more from a masculine approach than a feminine.
As the world struggles to understand the new era we are in as what does it mean to be a man or a woman in these bodies, we women are losing touch with our Feminine Souls and literally dying slow deaths through depression, cancer, heart attacks. We are also dying spiritually as we try to force our bodies into what society calls the norm – the masculine.
It just doesn’t work.
What is more is if you are a woman of almost any faith ~ or have been ~ it is especially scary, hard and intimidating to talk about our sensual and sexual sides of ourselves.
Our throats become tight, our head rages in hell and damnation as we hear scriptures forbid us, and we get all clammy and flustered, thinking we are doing something sooo wrong if we admit we have deep desires, longings and fantasies about our love life.
Especially if we have become mom…it’s like we have put on the eternal hat of the perfect, sexless Madonna and aren’t allowed to ever tap into the deep part of us we know is there. So we just suppress it.
We don’t believe we are allowed to have fantasies, desires and longings…and that we must submit our sexuality to our partners when they come along.
What’s more is there is typically no or very little space within our religious institutions for us to even begin talking about this very real, very misunderstood side of ourselves.
And I think that is just soooo last century – don’t you???
This is why I am birthing a class (and the Radiant Mama Feminine Mystery School) to give us a SAFE place to explore our Feminine Sensuality with its oh so mysterious ways.
Enough of the shaming, of the damning, of the blaming the Female and her “power” to make others “sin”. Enough of the idea that we are the root cause of the “Original Sin” (which is just a bogus idea that was NEVER part of Jesus thought theology!).
Enough of the idea that our sensuality makes us broken and that we need to be fixed because of it.
What we shame, cut off, repress and misunderstand only grows and takes on the like of something that we cannot control.
What we name, talk about, own and seek to understand we can bring into the Conscious Light of Christ and integrate into our lives so we can lead the abundant life the Canonical Jesus talked about.
What’s more is that as we women reclaim that which was wrongly stripped from us, we forge a new way to end all forms of abuse – verbal, physical, spiritual. We forge a new way to allow our children to grow up to be h
ealthy sensual adults and understand the sacredness of sex. We forge a new way to parent from a deep internal voice of truth that leads us right into the Oneness that we are said to be.
And my dear sister longing to explore this with me – there is so much more opening the door to this conversation will do for us, our kids and the world.
I know how scary this place can be. I know it feels like it is forbidden and better to just keep the door shut – tightly
Yet, if you are like me ~ and if you are reading this I have a hunch you are ~ you want to know that you CAN start talking about this area of your life with a breath of fresh air and letting go of the chains that encircle you.
You might not be desperate but you want to understand more about who you are at this level. You feel the deep stirring of desire in your loins, and it scares you yet excites you – and you don’t really know what to do with it. You want to honor your body and your faith ~ while feeling free to be fully who you are.
My sister, you are in the right place.
This, here with me and the circles I am creating are safe – especially for women of faith. I embarked on what I call my own feminine sensual awakening 4+ years ago and have done so without promiscuous sex – but with the idea that sex and what makes up my sexuality is sacred – even if the world calls it profane for a woman to fully own her sexuality herself. I dove in deep into my own soul and came up to the surface with much to share about how to be a sensual, sexual woman with faith in the sacred and the holy.
If you would like to talk in private about this topic and my upcoming class (Rebirthing Sensuality & Intimacy after Birth) and see if it is a win-win for you, then I am offering some space in my calendar to do just that. Click here and schedule an “Investigating Rebirthing” session with me today.
